Mark and Angel Chernoff are 1000 short stories Happy Writing for Successful People. They have spent more than a decade of coaching clients and have helped people bring their lives back on track. Here is one of the 12 poisoned behaviors of his recent posts that remove people from you.
In our line of work, Angel and I listen to hundreds of coaching clients every month. Through this experience, we have come into many poisonous behaviors which push people away from each other. And we have seen destruction due to these behaviors – for relationships, for personal and professional development, and for the general welfare of both individuals individually, and for everyone in their life.
Let’s be honest – all of us have worked in toxic, harmful ways at one time or another. None of us is sometimes resistant to toxic mood swings, but many people are more developed, balanced and aware, and such incidents happen only in their lives.
Whether your toxic behavior is a common occurrence, or only once in the event of a blue moon, it is important for your long-term happiness and success that you are able to recognize when you are behaving negatively and, necessarily But deliberately alter their mindset. The twelve most common poisonous behaviors we see are:
# 1. Being jealous of everyone – Do not let jealousy (or jealousy) best of you. Jealousy is the art of counting someone else’s blessing instead of you. Nothing about this behavior is attractive or appreciable. So stop comparing your travel comparison with someone else. Your journey is your journey, not competition. You are competing with only one person and one person – Self. You are competing to be the best. If you want to measure your progress, compare yourself to who you were tomorrow.
#2. Taking everything too personally – People are poisoned around when they believe that everything happening around them is a direct attack on them or there is nothing about them. The truth is that there is a lot about you about those who say and do with you. The reactions of people towards you are about their outlook, wounds, and experiences.Whether people think you are wonderful or believe that you are the worst, there is more information about them. I am not suggesting that we should be genocide and ignore all the reactions. I am saying that so sad, disappointment and sadness in our life come from our personal things personally. In most cases, it is far more productive and healthy for you to leave the good or bad opinion of other people and work with your intuition and knowledge as your guide. (Read four agreements.)
#3. Acting like you’re always a victim. – Another poisonous behavior consistently complains that your feeling of suffering is fuel. Believe that you are suffering, that you have no power in the direction of your life and there is no power, it is a poisonous stance that keeps you trapped. Working with people who have faced major trauma in their lives as a life coach, but got the courage to change them around, I know that we all have access to greater power, authority, and effect on our lives, as we believe in the beginning. When you stop complaining and refuse to see yourself as helpless victims, you will find that the more powerful you are, but only when you choose to accept this reality.
#4. Hoarding pain and loss. – One of the hardest lessons in life is to let go – whether it is crime, anger, love or loss. Changes are never easy – you fight to catch up and you fight to go. But the most healthy way to go many times is to move forward. It clears poisonous thoughts from the past. You have to be emotionally free from those things which once had a lot of meaning for you, So you can move forward from the past and this pain brings you. Again, it is hard to go and start your thoughts again, but it is worth every effort that you can do.
#5. Obsessive negative thinking. – It is very difficult to be around those people who refuse to quit negativity – when they are nervous and constantly talk about those terrible things that can happen and have happened, they face the disgusting Have been, and the inadequacy of life.These people refuse to see positive lessons from life and see positive lessons from what is happening. Frustration is one thing – but in a negative mentality, it is always closed for another. Looking at only negative, and operating from an attitude that everything is negative and is against you, there is a way of thinking and living, and you can change it.
#6. Lack of emotional self-control. – Inability to manage your emotions is poisonous to everyone around you. We all know these people – those who blurt in small hiccups or problems in anger and tears. Shouting at the grocery store clerk for a long line, shouting an employee for a minor error, or losing it with his daughter to spread the juice on the floor. If you find that you are very emotional, then lose your cool at every turn, You may need some external help to gain control of your emotions and help you understand the root of your inner angle. There is more to this than appears on the surface. An independent perspective – and a new type of support – can do wonders. (Angel and I discuss 1,000 short things Happy, Successful people in different ways in the “Happiness” chapter.)
#7. Making superficial judgments about others. – Always do not judge a person who they show you. Remember, what you have seen is only what the person has chosen to show you, or who was inspired to show them on the basis of internal stress and pain. Yes, when someone else tries to hurt you in a small way, This usually happens because they are deep suffering within themselves. Their pain is just spreading. They do not need penalties or ridicule, they need help. If you can not help them, then let them stay.
#8. Cruelty (or lacking empathy and compassion). – One of the most poisonous behaviors – Cruelty – strains from the total lack of sympathy, anxiety or compassion for others. We see it every day online and in the media – people are destructively harsh and harmful to others because they can.Using their anonymity as a shield, they bite people online in scary ways. Cruelty, backstabbing, and injuring others for any reason is poisonous, and it hurts you too. If you leave yourself behind and tear someone else, then stay in your track. Dig deep and get compassion in your heart, and realize that we all are together in it.
#9. Cheating and cutting moral corners simply because you can. – Fraud is an option, not a mistake, and do not excuse! If you decide to cheat, and you succeed in deceiving someone, do not think that this person is a fool. Understand that this person has ever trusted you more. Be greater than that. Do not do immoral things because you can. Do not cheat. Be honest with yourself and everyone. Do the right thing Honesty is the essence of everything successful.
#10. Hiding your truth. If you are constantly trying to hide from yourself, then people can not connect with you. And it becomes a really poisonous situation when they are associated with your false personality. So remember, it does not matter what age, race, sex or sexuality are you, being one of pure, beautiful under all your exterior decorations – each of us is one. We all have light to shine And complete the mission. Celebrate your special creation, aside from the beaten path, a little bit weird side. If you feel like a fish outside of water, then you get a new river to swim in every way. But who does not change you; Be that which you are. Decline yourself, improve yourself. (Read the unwanted soul.)
#11. Needing constant validation. – Those who constantly strive for verification of others are tired to be around. Men and women who are caught in the need to prove their value as much as possible, and constantly want to win everyone around them, are unconsciously poisonous and corrugated. Know it How to see things from others, wear more attachments than you can and bring everyone down around you. There is a big picture of your life, and it is not about what you gain in public eyes. This journey, process, path – what you are learning, how you are helping others learn, and you allow yourself to participate in the growing process.
#12. Being a stubborn perfectionist. – As humans, we often pursue imaginary, static states of perfection. We do this when we are looking for the right home, job, friend or lover. The problem, of course, is that perfection does not exist in a stable state. Because life is a continuous journey, constantly evolving and changing. What is here today is not the same tomorrow – The right house, job, friend or lover will eventually fade in the state of imperfection. But with a little patience and open mind, over time, that imperfect home develops in a comfortable home. That unfinished work develops in a rewarding career. She develops in a steady shoulder to become impoverished friend lean. And that imperfect boyfriend develops in a reliable lifelong companion. It’s just a matter of giving perfectionism.
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