Dr. Mark Goulston is a psychiatrist, international speaker, and best selling author of books such as Just Listen: Discover the Secret to Getting Through to Absolutely Anyone, The 6 Secrets of a Lasting Relationship: How to Fall in Love Again…and Stay There, REAL INFLUENCE: Persuade Without Pushing and Gain Without Giving In, Get Out of Your Own Way, and Get Out of Your Own Way at Work.
His post 10 Habits of Happy Couples offers valuable tips to will help you improve your relationship.
Happy couples know that the real relationship begins when the honeymoon is over. They know that unless you maintain the garden of love, its beauty will wither and die.
Go to bed at the same time.
Remember the beginning of your relationship, when you will not wait to go to bed with each other to love? Happy couples oppose the temptation to go to bed at different times. They go to bed at the same time, even if one partner gets up later to do things, while his partner sleeps. And even when their skin touches, each one of them is tingling and unless one or both are completely tired to feel sexual stimulation.
Cultivate common interests.
After the passion becomes quiet, it is common to feel that some of your interests are similar. But do not underestimate those activities you can do together. If common interests do not exist, happy couples develop them. At the same time, be sure to develop your own interests; this will make you more interesting for your partner and will prevent you from seeing too much dependence.
Walk hand in hand or side by side.
Instead of pulling behind a partner or behind the other, relax couples or walk with their hands in a comfortable hand. They consider it important to live with their partners, like watching places on the road.
Make trust and forgiveness your default mode.
If and when they have disagreements or arguments, if they can not solve them, the happy couples will fail to trust and forgive instead of offering kufr and congratulations.
Focus more on what your partner does right than what he or she does wrong.
If you’re looking for things your partners are doing wrong, you can always find something. If you do or do what you do, you can always find something. It all depends on what you want to see. Happy couples do positive positive pronunciation.
Hug each other as soon as you see each other after work.
Our skin has a “good touch” memory (love), “bad touch” (abusive) and “no touch” (neglected). Couples who say that their skin bathe in a “good touch” through embrace, which can soothe your spirit against the anonymity in the world.
Say “I love you” and “Have a good day” every morning.
This is a great way to buy some patience and tolerance because each companion puts every day to fight traffic jams, long lines and other hassles.
Say “Good night” every night, regardless of how you feel.
Tell your partner how upset you are, but you want to be in a relationship. You say you and your partner are bigger than any turbulent event.
Do a “weather” check during the day.
Contact your partner at home or work to see how his day is going. This is a great way to adjust your predictions so you can sync more when you’re connected after work. For example, if your partner has a terrible day, it may be inappropriate to expect to be enthusiastic about doing something good with you.
Be proud to be seen with your partner.
Happy couples are happy to see together and are often in affectionate contact – behind the hand, knee or behind the neck on the hand or shoulders at hand – they do not show, they say they are with each other.
The happy couple has different habits than unhappy couples. Habit is a separate behavior that you play automatically and there are few attempts to keep it. It takes 21 days of daily repetition of new behavior to become a habit. So, select one of the lists listed above for 21 days and make voila, you will become a habit … and will make you happy as a couple. If you fall off the wagon, do not worry, just ask for forgiveness from your partner, ask for your forgiveness and try again to return to the habit.
If love and life are the key to happiness and perhaps success, you will be going in every conversation in front of you and the first thing in your mind is “listening to” and interesting, more interested to be fascinated. Attractive and exquisite are more attractive than they are.
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